They say “What a difference a year makes” and they are absolutely correct. This time last year was the counter opposite of the beauty that turned into 2014. I care very little to recap on 2013, for those who have been … Continue reading
We are well deep in the times when its best to start wars, rather than give peace a chance. Telling someone you love “Fuck you, I hate you, you aint shit, you aint me” seems to be a better suit, than showering each other with positive vibes. The world is in chaos making territory their top priority rather than unite and care for one another as a whole (what are you fighting for?). Come together already.
Kendrick Lamar throws self- love into the air in hopes that everyone listening to his music joins in the movement once and for all. Lamar made the ground shake last week when he sent the cover of his new single into the interwebs, showing what I believe to be a Crip and a Blood in front of one another in harmony. Am I the ONLY one who thinks that? When I sent out a post about it last week people told me I was crazy, but then ….
A 9 volume magnitude earthquake came in early this am, which was felt across the country when the release of “i” hit. You have to respect what the man and his camp are doing. Regardless if he told Bitches not to kill his vibe, YOU HAVE TO RESPECT IT!
*You also have to love yourself before you can love anyone else, yes, we get that (well, some get that) but before you think about destroying someone because you can’t seem to figure yourself out, take a good look at who you are, and better yourself before coming into someones world. This subject couldn’t have come at a better time for me, and I hope you take the positive from your negatives, and make a change in your life. Give peace a try.
If you’re in a relationship (
I’m sorry) then this post is definitely not meant for you; however, if you’re the type of person, who lives vicariously through the singles out in the world, then proceed with care. Because I’m certainly that single gal, you’re going to want to live by for the rest of your life.
One of the best things I enjoy most about being single in the fall, are all the cozy locations I’ll get to hang out in, that will be less crowded because the rest of you will be fighting over the last make up sex you had, which clearly didn’t fix anything.
I get to go shopping for the ultimate scarves: edition 1 and 2, and I get to wear sweats (because I don’t care to find a temporary someone, who is just going to take over my holiday season just because they feel lonely about their sorry ass life) so fack you, go home!
I get to not only buy, but bake everything pumpkin and add my own touch of spice to it…yes, its that time of year when I go all out in the kitchen. Cue all Salsa music, and bring my dancing shoes, I’m going to make everything finger licking good.
Nothing says crisp and warm like classic films, and Netflix which has an amazing selection of classical movies for streaming, which coincide with the extensive list of people, I can call for a movie date. I’ll make the popcorn BYOBOW (Bring Your Own Bottle Of Wine).
Sometimes, I like to do things for myself; and some of those things are called: having a spa day at my very own humble of abode. When I get the urge to pamper all the pretty things that make me who I am, I go all out from head to toe and everything in between. I’ll do my hair, a facial, manicure and pedicure and pick out an outfit to take myself out in (I urge you to try this immediately).
I get to dance in my house wearing butty shorts, and not give a shit that Eva Mendez, just gave birth to Ryan Gosling’s baby ‘cause I still get to fantasies about him every night without feeling guilty. That, and I get to fantasies about all the people you shouldn’t be thinking about, while eating sushi at the beach because your ass is in a relationship. JA!
I get to spoon. I’m the best spooner, and I get to do it with out a care in the world.
Fall is finally here and so is my libido, but before I go making ANOTHER mistake, lets focus on all the hot men this fall has to offer.
There’s something about Tom Hardy. Well, there’s everything about Tom Hardy. I have salivated over this man since the 2002 Deseter. MY goodness, I love a man, who is all caught up in his feelings, don’t you, especially if they look like this? Make sure you catch him in The Drop, plus if you are a huge Soprano’s fan like me, then you will be just as thrilled to see James Gandolfini one last time.
Dear Sam Smith:
I would have totally pressed play on your album and would have completely had it on loop for the last 15 months, but I am breaking up with you before even downloading your tunes. I just can’t nor do I have the patients for your heartbreak love songs anymore. However, I think you are the cutest thing to come out of this fall season, like ankle fawn booties, and I’m sure there’s plenty of others who could use what you have to offer on your tour, but please don’t think for a second that it’s you, because it’s not, it’s me.
Nothing says cozy like a good book, and nothing says fall like an adaptation of a great book series come to life. Sam Heughan stars in STARZ’s Outlander as Jaime Fraser, so if you are anything like me, and have a thing for hot men then make sure your cable bill is paid on time.
Here are my simple easy steps in how to make her fall in love with you forever and ever, amen. Now, if you do reach the point where you have become her sun and moon; then do not fucking blow it, you asshole.
Killing her softly…
Turn her phone into your personal mix tape send her links to all the songs that remind you of her when you listen to them. Nothing is more romantic than knowing you’ve made something which reminds you of what we have together, especially a love song. Tell her how you didn’t like that song until you heard the way she sang it. Give her a CD filled with music you have from the moment you met, it’s a time capsule, and something sweet to look back on for years to come. Plus, if you do it right just imagine all the “volumes 1 through infinity” that could come from this.
A Long Walk…
Nothing says “romantic” like a long walk around the park, and if you have a pet, you have an advantage over those who don’t, which have to come up with other ways to keep the romance alive. Taking your pets out for a walk lets her know that you feel just as important about their health as you do about yours and hers; it also lets us feel like we can trust you with the smallest and most personal details in our lives. Plus, we love our pets, and holding hands with the man we love while taking a stroll feels good around the heart.
Flava In Ya Ear…
Tell her you love her; tell her she’s the most beautiful woman you’ve ever seen even in sweats. Tell her she capitals the world to you, and really truly mean it. Nothing makes us feel more important than our love showing how much they care for us in their every day because actions truly speak louder than words. Don’t be that guy that says “You are my everything; I can’t imagine my life without you”, and then the next day turns around, and you’re gone fuckin’ living and shit. If you’re going to leave, then leave love notes. On her pillow, on top of the toilet seat, by her nightstand, inside her favorite book, or even in her lunch box. Notes are EVERYTHING especially coming from you.
When They Reminisce Over You…
I know, they say that the past should stay in the past, but that only applies to those who are broken. So yes, take her back in time, remind her of how you felt about that day when she wore her favorite scarf, and you wore your favorite hat. Tell her what went through your mind on those early days when you were first courting her. There is something beautiful of those early feelings, where you realized “I don’t want to walk in a park next to anyone else, but you after this.” Tell her she gives you butterflies; that even though they were always there she just so happens to bring them to life when she looks into your eyes, and that you couldn’t wait for the day to come for when you finally told her. Tell her how lovely she looked on a certain day way back when, and how those are the moments you think about when you start feelings signs of a bad day. Tell her how she’s the best part of your day because you are definitely hers.
Find A Way…
She’s a woman, she loves cute and adorable things, and if you are awesome, she’s probably a closet geek, which only you get to enjoy in the privacy of your own space. By now you undoubtedly know who her favorite artist and authors and all the things she feels she needs in her life are, so find the limited edition something from one of her favorite people and give it to her. This coming from her most favorite person in the world will make her feel like not only do you understand, but you love that she’s corny that way.
She’s amazing right? She’s so dope that she’ll take a few dollars from her pay check and buy lovely lingerie, just because you’re a visual kind of man? Yea…the words “TGIF” will have a deeper meaning then just the weekend starting after 5pm for you, so why not spice things up; beat her to the punch and buy her some sexy lingerie on Monday, or Wednesday? Trust me; it will let her know how much you truly appreciate the intimate traditions she’s making with you.
Who Got The Props?
You are both busy, she’s running around trying to save the world, and you are done putting the aftermath of it all together, and since you got home before her, why not put some music on and make dinner? Yes, she loves to see you eat, but doesn’t she look delicious eating something you made just for the two of you? Some think a woman’s place is in the kitchen, but you are not that man; make her a nice dinner that will have her eyes looking at you like you are the best thing that happened to her because chances are if you are doing any of this…you probably are.
I Want You…
Nothing says “I want you in my life” more than a clear space in your closet, something that says “I made room for you” in my world. I know, sometimes these things feel like signs of moving way too fast, but it really isn’t. Well, considering that she’s there all the time anyways, so it’s obvious that you are going somewhere with it, and you might as well give her a place to put some underwear in, and a few dresses because you are probably fucking a lot, and we need to be clean when walking the hell out of your house. So show her just how much you care by giving her room in your space.
She loves you; she loves you so much she shows you all the time. In the way she holds you, breathes you, showers you, touches you and even in the way she gives you a pedicure without expecting anything. However, do something in return when your hands are free. Before you go and pick up the laptop to download some crap or pick up the controller to play the next level of your already complicated game, brush her hair, give her a massage. Who gives a shit if she dated a physical therapist before you, she loves you now and she’s with you. Stop second guessing yourself and dwelling on all the reasons for why you think she won’t like it, because you are her love, and anything you do TRUST me she will think it’s always forever amazing.
Now you’re probably thinking like a clock with no hands from all the things you’re doing for her? Then you’re in a relationship for no reason, stop wasting someone’s time and be by your God Damn Self, no one likes a low self-esteem bitch. Now, if you have the right woman next to you because you’re the right man, then there’s no need to ever feel such a selfish thought. When it works, you just know it, and when it doesn’t you know that to.
They say, “ If at first you don’t succeed. Dust yourself off and try again.” This past weekend was the first of many things to come. Not only did I leave my house without making my bed, I left my bed completely naked for the night. One of the best things about letting go of the comfort zone is finding out just how outside of the box you can be when you set yourself free.
Once you step away from the safety net it leaves plenty of room for the unexpected. One thing in particular happened to come after ReVerb Saturday night when Artistic Vibes hosted their very first cypher, and it just so happens that I was apart of it. Not only was I there for the moment to celebrate another night of poetry and music, but it was also the moment when I let go of all my fears, and shared a piece I had written with other’s completely outside of my inner circle.
Sunday morning G, Narciso and I packed it up and drove to Shark Valley for a day of bike riding. The last time I was on a bike, I was nine years old, and after a failed attempted at riding a bike with no hands at the tender age of 9, I ended up with a broken arm which stopped me from getting back on a bike for twenty-seven years. They say that once you ride a bike you never forget, and it just so happens that THEY were right. As I sat on my bike, took a deep breath and put my foot on the peddle -before I knew it, I was 12 miles in.
Most of you who visit my blog might not realize that you’ve heard the name J Dilla before, but trust me you’ve nodded your head to the sound of his beats without even knowing it. Dilla was a producer and rapper who emerged from the mid-90s underground hip hop scene in Detroit, Michigan. He worked alongside some of the best names in the business, A Tribe Called Quest, De La Soul, Busta Rhymes, Erykah Badu, MF Doom, The Roots, The Pharcyde and Common just to name a few.
Yancey died in 2006 of the blood disease Thrombotic Thrombocytopenic Purpura. And although he’s been gone for 8 years, through his music, his mother, his brother, and his fan’s, Dilla continues changing lives to this day.
One life in particular happens to be my dear friend DaVincci, one of the producers for Miami Beat Wave. While undergoing sleepless months at the Jackson Memorial Hospital for a heart condition, he poured the bit of passion he had left at the time into Hi Fidelity Funk, but that was only the beginning.
We went from complete strangers to two people who needed to come into each other’s life for a bigger purpose, more so than most of you who walk into our lives leaving no marks. It didn’t take long before our countless conversations over life, dreams, music, favorite foods, much-needed beach time, tons of green tea and a swap of a Jango Fett pen for copy of my Timeless Suite for Ma Dukes that lead to an epiphany between us, and before I could change from sweatpants into a flowing summer dress, DaVinnci X Dilla was born.
They say that after every heartbreak we peacock. Isn’t that the most beautiful thing you’ve heard besides “I love you too”? That after the showers of pain, you become even more beautiful than you were before…
Most of you already know by now that Hello Giggles has been blogging lately about what one should do after a breakup in order to prepare for their next relationship. And since I’m me, I have to disagree with some of them.
A topic that’s right up my alley however, is dating oneself, because I’m BIG on dating myself.
Before we begin, allow me to express that after jumping out of a relationship we mustn’t jump right into another one. We all know that NEVER works out. Rule #1: stay as far away as humanly possible from rebounds of any kind (which is why I never repeat an outfit or an ex lover for that matter), carry on.
No one likes to be a rebound, and after a while even the one who jumps in tends to get worn-out it just causes too much confusion, and before you know it, you’re allowing “Hey you busy? Call me” messages from your ex at 1AM. Therefore, take your time.
Now, this last relationship, although VERY short (and my feelings had completely out-weighed the length of the relationship itself in which normally should’ve taken about 3 weeks to get over), I shortly after made a list of things I needed to do in order to make the process of being “Cute and adorable Wajima again” easy as masturbating.
I’m also happy to report that what took place kicked the little pants off of my tiny list, and everything that happened not only was unexpected, but absolutely worth it. Lets go back a bit…
After my break up (lol) I went back into the box, and began de-cluttering all the junk I had collected while emotionally, physically and mentally involved with it, and as I tossed all the reasons that were trying to keep me from being adorable and lovable even… like, the sweaters and the crap I should have NEVER accepted…
Rule #2: don’t accept anything from anyone if there is any signs of red flags from the very start. Nonetheless, what I found with every swing of the arm -was that I couldn’t wait to be my old self once more, hmmm, but this time…better than EVER.
I had to dig hard and deep (just how I like it) and as I retraced my steps to the beginning of it all….where I landed was just in the right spot; I went back to the basics; I began to date myself all over again, and now for the moment you have not been waiting for, if you would please allow me this kindness to share with you all the things I did to make sure, I’d never repeat the same mistakes again, lets take a look at a year worth of emancipation.
How to Date Yourself Before Dating Anyone else by Wajima.
I saw John Mayer in concert
Started dreaming again
I bought a telescope
I went back to school
I went back to the theater
I accepted a great job
I made new friends
I inspired a painting
I changed my furniture
I reupholstered my chairs
I inspired an album
I visited Naples
I saw the Red Moon
I celebrated 36
I was the PR/Model behind a community project
I went back to sketching
These became my favorite cookies again
I was part of my first Corporate Run
I went kayaking for the first time
I saw the sunset
I celebrated my childrens accomplishments <3
I went to New York more than once.
I started painting again
I went to Brooklyn with this beauty
I took a nice picture from the hood of a taxi cab in the middle of Time Square
I went on my first date in forever
I took a yoga class under the first Super Moon of the summer
I was able to catch lighting on my phone
I was a foot model for my sons’ Sleeping Beauty sketch
I inspired a poem, and I fell in love with life all over again
Fall in love and if it doesn’t work out fall in love again after that, and if that doesnt workout try it…one…more…time, but don’t forget to fall in love with you first. I want to thank everyone who has been a part of this transition, you kept me sane, you kept me grounded and most importantly you kept reminding me of how fucking amazing I am. I love you so much.
Please allow me tell you about this man. I met Narciso last year on New Year’s Eve, he was brought to my house by Jason, and before he even opened his mouth, he managed to touched my heart in places I didn’t know were still alive with just a stare. Not sure what made him say yes to spending New Years Eve (of all dates) in a complete strangers home, but I’m glad he did because he now holds a permanent spot at my dinner table.
His smile it’s uplifting, his hugs are warm-winds, he’s the kind of man that stands in a darkroom, and still illuminates it, and when he speaks, he has this magic about him that makes you think about your life, your dreams, your hopes, your love and your actions the very next day. Happy Birthday, Nico!
You can catch Narciso this Saturday at Artistic Vibes for another amazing ReVerb, and stay after the show as we celebrate one of Miami’s top Poets. Don’t forget its a B&W affair so dress up or stay home, and watch us via Instagram or Facebook while wishing you were there.
It’s been a while since I did Monday’s Eye Candy, and I figured what better way to break the hiatus then by posting all the sexy faces I would sit on from this eventful World Cup. At my job we placed a bet along with our sister companies on which office represented what team, and the wining office would be gifted a jersey representing our office with our names on the back from the 2014 World Cup. After a month long of happy hours and just because FIFA events, it just so happened that our office had picked Germany to win the 2014 championship, therefore, I had to do this gorgeous post. So without further ado, please allow me to bore you with my pick of the hottest men of the 2014 FIFA! Congratulations Germany.
Ben Foster – England
Ermin Blcakcic – Bosnia
Rul Patricio – Portugal
Claudio Marchisio – Italy <3
Gloros Tzavelas – Greece
Ezequiel Lavezzi – Argentina <3
Manuel Neuer – Germany