Romance is not only my day job, but it’s also my morning cup of coffee, why I get dressed every day, and my reason for breathing. Yes, I understand that you think romance is important when it comes to relationships, and although, I might be in the crossroads of one, the one relationship I never seem to have a problem with is the one I have with myself. Many times I’ve been asked “Do you think it’s healthy that you are always romancing yourself, kind of makes it hard, it’s like they are always competing with you, no?” and my answer to that is always, “no.” I spend more time alone then I do in relationships, and since it’s the little things that count, and no one knows me better than I know myself, I seem to keep things wonderful when it comes to me, and although I’m hopeful about love, I can’t help but to romance myself every chance I get. Today, I treated myself to lunch, sat outside and enjoyed this beautiful cool breeze in Miami, bought a book by the self-title of this blog, and Thanked everyone for the little complements as I walked between buildings while wearing my emerald skirt, royal blue lace top and cat shades. I can’t wait to go home and read all about romance.
So this is the man who will play Christian Grey, in Fifty Shades of Grey…WOW! I’m going to be extremely honest, and get it out of the way, but I did not enjoy these books one bit.
For starters, while reading the books it dawned on me that they were a poor X-rated imitation of the Twilight Saga, which I did enjoy because I have a fascination for mythical creatures, therefor Vampires are my favorite dead-people in the world, so that’s one. And two; come on, REALLY ladies? Half of the shit written in these books are so basic, and seeing how crazy women were becoming over the very sloppy detail of intimacy or lack thereof, I was beginning to question…”Was there something wrong with me?”
Now, when I started the books I was involved with a man whose personality and unattainable feelings resembled those of Christian Grey. The story of my life. So every page I read was just another reminder of a man I needed to get out of my system in more ways than one. MAN…everyone should fuck like this. His fucking tapped right into all of my issues, and I needed every single one of his fucked up issues inside me.
Later I learned that not a lot of women have experienced sex this way, and it was a reality check that couples are sticking to the basic formality of sex (vanilla sex) and women comforted to living vicariously through them as if this was the first sex book to hit the market. For some reason couples have lost the spice that happens in the beginning of relationships over time, while others have found that if it weren’t for these books, they wouldn’t have been able to approach their partner, and find the kinks that apply most to them. Now, I’m not going to say that spanking the shit out of a woman’s ass to the point where she can’t sit the next day is right. Fuck that side of the book. I’m talking exotic- sweaty- hungry- tie me- I can’t live without having you- and the next day I’m still feeling the motion inside of me sex, all at the thought of you. Not toxic sex, that’s just gross.
However, I apologize for veering off topic , but let’s go back to this guy right here. The universe couldn’t have given us a better looking man to play the role of fucking Christian Grey. Allow me to express that when I read the books I gave Christian a beard, along with a personality who could fuck even your shadow if you let it. Now, I’m not going to fake the funk, and tell you that I wont be buying a ticket to opening night, because I will be there opening night. I mean, c’mon…I want to see Charlie Hunnam split that woman in half. Let’s face it, if you can’t get your ass spanked and hair pulled during sex every once in a while, then you’re not living. ;)
Bella Andre’s is sitting back watching how three of her Sullivans’ novels climb peek all the way to the top of the New York Times best sellers. That has to be the most rewarding feeling in the world, to get to the point where countless nights filled with sleep deprivation and thousands upon thousands of word editing could simply payoff by turning you into a house hold name. I am giving you a preview of ‘I Only Have Eyes For You’ by Bella Andre’s for you to enjoy. Good luck!
New York Times List:
29. IF YOU WERE MINE
31. CAN’T HELP FALLING IN LOVE
Today I’m home with what seems to be a very bad case of walking pneumonia, I haven’t had a moment to let my body heal, puling almost a 100 hrs last week. I am completely beat. Now while I’m in bed doing absolutely nothing with a big size of heavy resting, I will be traveling into, World War I. I will be experiencing the story of an American on the Italian front, and hoping to be captivated by his passion for an English nurse. My Good Reads for today is: A Farewell to Arms by Ernest Hemingway.
Jackie Chanel has a big heart, and it shows by donating the profits of ‘Untitled’, to NCIRE. I found Jackie Chanel, 2.5 years ago on twitter, we were among the lucky 4.5 million followers, following the guitar ninja also known as, John Mayer. After getting to talking beyond 140 characters, both Jackie and I realized we had more than just John Mayer in common, she’s also a writer. Right after Mayer cancelled his spring tour due to his granuloma this year, which caused for ‘Born and Rise’, (the sixth studio album) to get pushed back last October, Jackie jumped into fan girl mood quick. She needed to do something to show her support, she wanted to do more for the musician, whose music has touched the lives of so many of us. Mayer is a advocate for ‘The Veterans Health Research Institute’, and all of his fans are behind him in supporting this beautiful cause. Won’t you join us in supporting NCIRE as well?
NCIRE – The Veterans Health Research Institute has one mission and one goal: Veterans Health. We are the leading nonprofit research institute in the United States devoted to advancing Veterans health research.
You can find Jackie Chanel’s books by clicking on the links below, and you can also find her on Facebook.
Everyone that knows me knows that I sweat the smallest things, from no pens in the house to the lunch menu for tomorrow…this has become habit in order for me not to stress over the big things that take away from all the important things in my life, things like bills, and things we have no control over. Not to long ago, I had to take a moment and find ground because the important things in life were starting to pile up, and needed my attention ASAP, during this time a friend of mine came over to the house to share some insight, and handed me a number of books that have to do with God, life and how not to ‘sweat the small stuff’. I am truly grateful for my friends, day to day, online or simply through a hand written letter, because they always take time out of their busy lives to bring some wisdom into mine. Here is my good Fall/Autumn read, enjoy!
Most of you have asked since my divorce if I would ever get married again. My answer as been the same since I signed the papers, Yes…I would totally do it again! Just because it didn’t work out the first time, doesn’t mean I’m going to place the whole idea on the back burner and watch it disintegrate. That would only indicate that I learned nothing from it. Now just to clarify, marriage isn’t something I think about all the time, but when it does come up, I try my best to think of it in a good light. I am not completely turned off by the idea, and I still believe that I will find love one day, but in the mean time I will learn all the languages it has to offer. I will give chance to relationships, whether its with friends, a mutual person, a co-worker or myself; I will listen to what my heart has to say from here on out.
I don’t know anyone that can rock fangs, have impeccable hair, never break a sweat while blood just pours out of their mouth, and still look mind fucking sexy like True Blood’s very own Alexander Skarsgård, do you? At 6’4 he is the right height to look up to, and get lost in. The man was built absolutely perfect!