They say that after every heartbreak we peacock. Isn’t that the most beautiful thing you’ve heard besides “I love you too”? That after the showers of pain, you become even more beautiful than you were before…
Most of you already know by now that Hello Giggles has been blogging lately about what one should do after a breakup in order to prepare for their next relationship. And since I’m me, I have to disagree with some of them.
A topic that’s right up my alley however, is dating oneself, because I’m BIG on dating myself.
Before we begin, allow me to express that after jumping out of a relationship we mustn’t jump right into another one. We all know that NEVER works out. Rule #1: stay as far away as humanly possible from rebounds of any kind (which is why I never repeat an outfit or an ex lover for that matter), carry on.
No one likes to be a rebound, and after a while even the one who jumps in tends to get worn-out it just causes too much confusion, and before you know it, you’re allowing “Hey you busy? Call me” messages from your ex at 1AM. Therefore, take your time.
Now, this last relationship, although VERY short (and my feelings had completely out-weighed the length of the relationship itself in which normally should’ve taken about 3 weeks to get over), I shortly after made a list of things I needed to do in order to make the process of being “Cute and adorable Wajima again” easy as masturbating.
I’m also happy to report that what took place kicked the little pants off of my tiny list, and everything that happened not only was unexpected, but absolutely worth it. Lets go back a bit…
After my break up (lol) I went back into the box, and began de-cluttering all the junk I had collected while emotionally, physically and mentally involved with it, and as I tossed all the reasons that were trying to keep me from being adorable and lovable even… like, the sweaters and the crap I should have NEVER accepted…
Rule #2: don’t accept anything from anyone if there is any signs of red flags from the very start. Nonetheless, what I found with every swing of the arm -was that I couldn’t wait to be my old self once more, hmmm, but this time…better than EVER.
I had to dig hard and deep (just how I like it) and as I retraced my steps to the beginning of it all….where I landed was just in the right spot; I went back to the basics; I began to date myself all over again, and now for the moment you have not been waiting for, if you would please allow me this kindness to share with you all the things I did to make sure, I’d never repeat the same mistakes again, lets take a look at a year worth of emancipation.
How to Date Yourself Before Dating Anyone else by Wajima.
I saw John Mayer in concert
Started dreaming again
I bought a telescope
I went back to school
I went back to the theater
I accepted a great job
I made new friends
I inspired a painting
I changed my furniture
I reupholstered my chairs
I inspired an album
I visited Naples
I saw the Red Moon
I celebrated 36
I was the PR/Model behind a community project
I went back to sketching
These became my favorite cookies again
I was part of my first Corporate Run
I went kayaking for the first time
I saw the sunset
I celebrated my childrens accomplishments <3
I went to New York more than once.
I started painting again
I went to Brooklyn with this beauty
I took a nice picture from the hood of a taxi cab in the middle of Time Square
I went on my first date in forever
I took a yoga class under the first Super Moon of the summer
I was able to catch lighting on my phone
I was a foot model for my sons’ Sleeping Beauty sketch
I inspired a poem, and I fell in love with life all over again
Fall in love and if it doesn’t work out fall in love again after that, and if that doesnt workout try it…one…more…time, but don’t forget to fall in love with you first. I want to thank everyone who has been a part of this transition, you kept me sane, you kept me grounded and most importantly you kept reminding me of how fucking amazing I am. I love you so much.