October: the New Kind of Love.


While my mother was in rehab, recovering from her surgery, we met a family that touched our hearts in so many ways. One Sunday afternoon, I walked in to my mother’s room, which she shared with another lady, a much older lady. I sat on the share next to my mother’s bed, hoping that God would fill me, if just for that moment with the strength not to breakdown in front of her.  My mom looked at me and said, “Waji, sometimes in life even loving from a distance is a great thing.”

At that moment, the ladies family came into the room. Her son is a quadriplegic, he was cliff diving, at 22, vacationing on his honeymoon, with his beautiful bride, and broke his spine.  They have no children, but have been together for 25 years, and you would think they had recently met, from the sign of fresh love still circling the areola of both their eyes.  Five years into their marriage, she was diagnosed with breast cancer.

“I hated myself for becoming sick, because I had to take care of him, and I felt selfish knowing that I was the one who needed the help, and attention, and I felt like it was taking time away from him. Many nights I asked him to leave me, and he told me, “If you didn’t leave me at 22, I’m not leaving you, ever. We kept each other alive. It’s what you do when you love someone, even if you know they can’t, not because they don’t want to, but because its physically impossible for them to do the things you need at the moment. But even then, if I needed to go to the bathroom, and I didn’t have the strength, he would find it somehow to place me on his lap, and take me to the bathroom.  He fought for me, even at my worst, even when I didn’t want to anymore. We fought for each other. That, my dear Waji is love.”

The lady, whose bed was next to my mother’s, was battling cancer, her husband of 55 years was by her side, and every time he looked away from her to enter a conversation, he would start off by saying, “she’s so beautiful.”

The day before she went to hospice, she looked at me and smiled, held my hand and said, “Have faith, my child.”

Today we got the news that she passed away. My thoughts are with the Lorenzo family, and my heart is with everyone who is fighting for love and life.

Sometimes people come into your life, and you don’t even have to say a word, but somehow, they will give you something from their life that you can take into yours.

I’m Walking For A Cure!

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Tomorrow the Susan G Komen Breast Cancer Walk will be covering the streets of Downtown Miami, and I will be attending in memory of one of my best girl friends’ mother.

For the past 4 years we have been doing the Miami walk in memory, honor and in support for all the women and families who have been touched by Breast Cancer, and every year the line of survivors becomes even bigger.

Is My Personality Really That Awful?

I got into a very heavy conversation about signs, and personality today. The feed back was conventional and by far one of the best topics I have allowed myself to engage in. The reason why I find the topics of zodiac signs so gratifying is quite simple, I love all things romance, and if I would ever get a chance to be someone in my next life it would have to be, cupid.

Now seeing that horoscopes intrigue me, I have decided to add the topic to blog. Every month a sign will be displayed and I’m going to discuss all of the things I find attractive about them. Now on that note, seem’s like us Taurus’s are known for two things…great sex and bad personalities. I’m sure we are known for something more meaningful, so I’m on the hunt to finding this out… until then I have decided to change my sign.

From now on I will no longer be a, Taurus. I will consider myself an Aphrodite.

Monday’s Eye Candy- Lisa Abreu!

Q: You represent Miami, especially Hialeah. What do you love most about the City?

Lisa:  I love the heat, the beach, the nightlife, the sexy people but most of all the fact that its home! I love being able to go to the bakery and get myself una Materva con una croqueta!

Q: You have great style, where do you get your fashion sense?

 Lisa: Honestly, I’ve never considered myself to be very fashionable, at all! I like to be comfortable, but I also do enjoy playing dress up once in a while. I’m not the type to layout what I’m going to wear the next day, I never was. I just dress in whatever I feel like wearing that day, depending on my mood. However, I do know what I like and what I don’t like when it comes to fashion, that’s for sure.

Q: As a woman, we always have a signature scent. Mine is ‘Chance’ by Chanel. Which fragrance would you say is yours?

 Lisa:  Mine is definitely J’adore by Dior.

Q: There are many talented artist in Miami, who are you listening to these day?

 Lisa: I definitely am a big supporter of the local music and artist scene here in Miami. I try to stay up to date with everything that is happening in the music scene locally, and support my fellow musicians and friends. On my iPod right now, I have a plethora of artists. Everything from, The Band Perry, to Halestorm.

Q: You are flawless during your shows, what are your regimens before going out on stage?

Lisa:  On a show day, I try to rest as much as I can, and not use my voice too much. I definitely warm up vocally and take some time to myself to focus, and relax. I also like to have a moment with the boys before jumping up there. As cheesy as it may sound, it’s a ritual that makes a difference. Helps all get on the same page.

Q: You know it’s important to always have a piece of home when you’re on the road. What do you take with you to keep you balanced?

Lisa:  My baby pillow! Cannot leave my house without it, always reminds me of home, and my mommy!

Q: You come from a musical background, whom do you say has been your biggest influence in your own music today?

Lisa:  Music has been a part of my life since I can remember. There is not a moment of my life that I can recall where music was not present. I have so many influences growing up, but to name a few that have made a difference in my life would have to be Madonna, Joan Jett, Pat Benatar, Myriam Hernandez, Hayley Williams just to name a few. There are so many artists that in so many different ways have influenced me, and have helped me become who I am today on and off the stage.

Q:  You have done back up vocals for some very big names in the Spanish music industry. How was it working with Paulina Rubio, Cristian Castro and Pimpinela?

Lisa:  It was an amazing experience and an honor to be able to share the stage with them. They were all stepping-stones that helped me better understand my craft and grow

Q:  You’re the lead vocalist for, Avenida Zero. The band has been together almost a year, and in a short amount of time you’ve acomplished so much, you were given the opportunity to perform, in the 2011 Warped Tour. Tell me a little bit about that?

Lisa:  When my drummer Gabriel, called me to tell me that we were going to play Warped Tour, at first I honestly couldn’t believe it. I thought it would never happened since our music was in Spanish. It was such a blessing to be a part of  Vans Warped Tour, and play where so many of our influences have been before us. It definitely made the boys and myself, want to work harder. It also helped us realize that nothing is impossible. Limitations are only in our minds, everything and anything is possible if you want it bad enough.

Q: I am a fan of your band, loved you since Tabacoo Road, what’s in the works for Avenida Zero in 2012?

Lisa:  Right now, we are in the studio recording our second EP, which will have some songs in English as well as a couple in Spanish. We are also, going to be filming our first video for Gran Estreno, in both languages. That will be coming out very soon, so keep an eye out for that.